Our cultural projections about the cock are infused with our patriarchal values such as action, force, and the need to make an impact. Men ubiquitously suffer from these assumptions attached not only to their own cocks, but to those of others as well. When we think of the cock as a codified representation of these values, we overly emphasize its penetrative nature and minimize a wide range of possible experiences that have little or nothing to do with “doing” another–a phenomenon called functional fixedness.
Instead, we might envision the cock as an appendage capable of generating massive amounts of energy, sensation, and connectivity to the heart of the man to whom it is attached. Viewed this way, the cock is a conduit to an experiential quality of surrender–active receptivity–but only if one lets go of the need to penetrate as its sole function, blurring our enculturated demarcations between the fucker and the fucked.
One way to subvert these psychological templates is to penetrate the cock with an instrument made of surgical steel or silicone: a practice called sounding. Many men enjoy the sensation of their cocks being filled and stimulated from the inside out as well as the rush of allowing themselves to be penetrated in this idealized symbol of virile masculinity.
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